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Well, it is official.  I have moved from typepad to wordpress to blog. I hope to come up with some interesting things to say. Right now I don’t have time to really write something intense. But I wanted to see how this blogsite works. 

I’ll be unpacking soon. Thanks for checking up on me. 😛


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I saw the new Dolly Parton video for her song, “Better Get to Livin'”. It is quite a kick in the pants. There is no sympathetic compassion for the sad stories and excuses that she calls whining and pining. Her advice is that you better get to living. You need to start forgiving, giving, caring, sharing, trying, smiling, helping, loving and when it seems too hard… fall on your knees and start praying.

This video, at first, was kind of insulting to me, (They start out with a circus barker at a sideshow and she doesn’t have kind words for the sad and crying women in the crowd.) They are portraying women that are miserable from envy, jealousy, and stuff like that, as side show freaks. (You might need to watch the video to see what I am talking about. If you know me at all, you know that I love to give and receive compassion.) check out her video

Then as I listened to Dolly’s words, I realized that she was giving a kindly kick in the pants to someone who was just making excuses and creating their own sad situations. I guess there are times when the kindest thing that a person can do is to cut through the niceties and tell you what you don’t want to hear.

I need to get to living (and cleaning and decluttering and smiling and forgiving too.) Too much time has gone by while I have waited for a “cure for what ails me” and whined about my “lack of skills” in certain areas of homemaking. I guess I have had friends try to give me a kick in the pants, but I must have dodged them.
Sometimes it takes a shocking video to get to me.

I hope that I can take Dolly’s advice and “get to livin'”. I know that some people are sad because of what has happened to them. (I have been there and done that) And some people are sad because of chemical imbalances in their bodies. But there are some sadnesses that come from our own habits being bad for us. Is it time to make new habits and change the way that I am living? I think so.

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On days like today, I feel like a daycare worker first and a mom second. I barely saw my kids this morning. I didn’t even realize that Danielle (my 5th grade fashionista) had gobs of eyeshadow on, until Michael pointed it out to me. I dropped Catherine off at school late again. (But I am actually doing better this year than I have in the past at being on time.) When I dropped off Dani and Chris, I spoke a little harshly to them because they were taking sooooo long to get out of the van…. again! I get these frantic “move it along lady!” gestures from the parking lot parent and I know that I am holding up a line of frustrated parents. I hate to leave the kids with harsh words ringing in their ears but I also hate to be the focus of an angry mob of commuter parents.

So, off to work I went… to watch other people’s babies… with a smile on my face as much as possible. We had a lock down drill and a fire drill today. It was a bit stressful at the nursery. (Sometimes it was a lot stressful) You know that nursery workers have to draw on deep wells of strength and patience from some inner source… well, I don’t always put forth the same effort with my own kids. I feel like they should know by now how I expect them to behave.

After working at the very busy nursery till 1:50pm, I had a short lunch break before heading to an elementary school to watch kindergarteners and first graders till 5 pm. That went pretty well. I only made one boy cry. He was upset because I put another boy in charge of the Dr Suess game. But I should have known that this other boy really REALLY wanted to be in charge. He told me that he knows how! He told me that he wants to be in charge! But I had noticed that he was not a good listener. He was disrespectful to teachers. Didn’t follow rules and kinda bullied other kids. I guess I don’t feel like that behavior needs to be rewarded. I didn’t let the tears manipulate me.

When I got home, my heroic husband had finished helping kids with homework and had just finished making dinner for all of us. He also had to pick all the kids up from their schools today, since I was subbing at daycare. He is awesome!!!!!!

After dinner I was trying to get my youngest child to clean up his area and it seems like I said all kinds of wrong things because he got all offended and got this bad attitude on. I was pointing out that instead of doing what he is told, with a bad attitude, he should be thanking his dad for the great dinner and for helping with homework and I jokingly/seriously told him to “tell dad thank you for making my dinner and helping me with homework and I love you.” and I said “give him a hug and a kiss.” This made hime get all offended or embarrassed but he was smiling at my joking while he protested. Then I said, ” Now, hug me and kiss me with that smile too.” and he wouldn’t even look at me. He put his head beside the couch. I am not sure what I did to start him off with a bad attitude. Maybe he had it before I said anything. I guess that I am just feeling like I am better at daycare than I am at home. I feel like even though I made a boy cry at daycare, at least I understand why that happened. I hate it when I feel like a loser of a mom. Believe me, it happens a lot. It happened before I was a “working mom” and it still happens now. I am feeling the weight of the responsibility of how these kids of mine are turning out. Do I really have that much influence over them? They seem to spend most of their lives at school and doing homework.

God, help me to choose to draw deeper on that inner well of patience when I am with my own kids. Help me to make time to get the well filled, by spending time with You, and in your word. I pray that I will not just sit around beating myself up for not always doing this parenting thing right. Help me to get better at parenting my kids as individuals. Keep them in your care. Amen.

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I am still thinking about getting an ad car. One thing on the positive side is that if we get one of their cars, we could probably get a van with a roof rack. We noticed on our camping trip this summer that our van cannot carry all that we need it to. If we get our own van wrapped, we might make enough money to have a roof rack put on.

One thing, on the negative side of the argument was a discussion that I heard on the radio yesterday. The topic was advertisment. The question was, “How much is too much?” or “Where is it crossing the line?” One of the people said that there was advertising for a T.V. show, on the stripes that separate parking spaces. One guy said that he thinks it is the wrong place to advertise, in the airport, where he is getting searched, because he is just not in the mood at that point.

One guy said that he is opposed to clutter, and a lot of the ads are just cluttering up the streets. That is the one that hit me the most. Do I think that there is an advertisment that I can put on my car, that is worthy of cluttering a beautiful roadway? Is it worth it to me? Is it something that I can be proud of?

Just some things that I am pondering.

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I have been recently considering driving an Ad car. It would be like another part time job. It would pay about the same as my current part time job. But I would be driving this advertisment around full time. I have to consider if this is something that I will regret when my life flashes before my eyes. Will I regret putting subliminal messages into peoples heads? Will I be able to pick and choose which company I am advertising for? Will I be willing to drive this car to weddings and funerals? I guess I have some more to think about. If something seems like it is too good to be true…maybe it has hidden loopholes. I guess it deserves a deeper consideration.

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Be there!

It’s February! A month that reminds us to love generously.
Happy Valentine’s Day to you all! Today is only the 9th of Feb. but I thought that I should get a head start. Today is also a day that I am home from work. Our youngest son, Chris, is sick. He has a fever and tummy ache. I had a bit of tummy ache last night too, so I feel justified in taking the day off of work. I don’t want to spread those germs to the babies in the nursery, you know.

I like to be able to be with my kids when they are sick. I think that it is a tangible way to show them that I love them. I know that when I was sick as a child, my mom was always there to soothe me and comfort me. I may not be as good as she was with the nurturing part, but I can be there, sometimes. It makes me sad that I cannot be there everytime one of my kids or my husband is sick, but at least I can be there sometimes. I only have to work part time. That is a luxury. I am grateful to be able to be there as much as I am, with my kids and my husband. I feel bad for families that have to be apart so much because of school and work and other busyness.

I substitute at after school daycare occasionally. It blows my mind away when I think of how long these kids go without seeing their parents. Some of the kids tear my heart up because of how emotionally clingy they get to me and some tear my heart out because they don’t seem to care at all about their nearly 11 hour day away from family. I was able to be a stay at home mom for many years and I wish that I had not complained so much about it. It was a joy and a blessing to know that I could be there for my kids whenever they needed me. Some people don’t have that luxury. Some don’t consider it a luxury or a blessing.

I watched the video on Jason’s blog called “Straton’s story”. It is about a pastor in Rwanda who is learning how to love people generously by being there. BEING THERE in the moment with someone is a gift to them. Being there when they are sick, scared, lonely, hopeless, desperate, confused or even happy, is your gift, your compassion, yourself in action. Be there mentally, physically, vocally or silently, prayerfully and generously. Watch the video and see what you think about “being there” as an act of love.

I will try to figure out how to link to Jason’s blog and the video…until then…go back to theofframp.org homepage and click on Jason Zahariades and go to February 8. blog entry. Ai yi yi!!! I need computer classes!!!

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Here is a gift from me to you.

I love it when I am listening to the radio and a song pops on that makes me smile or laugh with sheer childlike pleasure. I can’t wait to share it with my kids or husband or friends. So, when I heard this one that asks “Donde esta Santa Clause?” I knew that I had to find it on the internet and share it with my kids and whoever else would listen.

Now for your listening pleasure, click on this link and turn up the volume and hope it works.

Donde esta Santa Clause?

You will be able to hear the song on realplayer and see the lyrics on the page. Have a fun Christmas!

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